Happy Ever After Begins…. with Happy.
Happiness looks different to everyone. For you, maybe it’s being at peace with whom you are. Or having a secure network of friends who accept you unconditionally. Or the freedom to pursue your deepest dreams.
Regardless of your version of true happiness, living a happier, more satisfied life is within reach. A few tweaks to your regular habits can help you get there.
“The heart that gives thanks is happy, for we cannot feel thankful and unhappy at the same time.”
— Douglas Wood,
When I first started my business, I knew everything about my business, but I knew nothing about business. I learned early on that in order for me to thrive; I needed a plan. One that would guarantee success.
That meant that I had to get into a teachable mindset and be willing to make changes if I wanted to succeed. And it worked.
In order to find happiness that lasts, we must first establish the teachable mindset that Happy Ever After begins with Happy.
Happiness is not a destination. It’s not something you achieve after you do something, and it’s most definitely not something you achieve after someone else does something for you. No one is coming to rescue you simply because you don’t need anyone to.
Happiness is a choice, not an action, person, reward, bribe, or result. Yes, there are things in life that make you feel happy for a moment. The smile of a child. The warmth of the sun on your face. The feeling of having achieved something you worked towards. But these things are a feeling of being happy for a moment, and they don’t last.
I once overhead the wife of a renowned speaker being asked by someone how her husband made her happy. Her response was that he can’t make her happy, only she can. This is the secret to finding and keeping happiness in your life every day.
A flower does not compete with the flower next to it. It just blooms.
― Zen Shin
Don’t Compete for Happiness
Don’t look for happiness in material things. Buying a new car, or a new dress will only make you happy for a short while, until you see the newer model being driven by your neighbor or the dress being worn by someone else who looks better in it.
Thoughts create actions. Choose good ones.
Whatever you tell yourself in your mind, you will believe. If you say you can, you will. If you say you can’t, you are really saying you won’t.
When you tell yourself, you are not happy you will act out on that thought.
What the mind thinks, the heart believes.
What the heart believes, the body does.
Adopt: An Attitude of Gratitude.
Unhappy people believe they deserve to be happy. Unfortunately, this is not true. We do not “deserve” anything. Everything we receive in life is a gift, not a right. Each day you wake up is a gift to make it better than the day before.
This simple shift in your mindset can alter the direction of your life. Like attracts like so Happy, attracts Happy.
Problems are a chance to grow, not a reason to wither.
Life will give you problems, grief, pain, and heartbreak. It’s designed that way. This is how we learn to thrive. We thrive by realizing that yes, we can survive tragedy. We can overcome disasters. We can learn to Love again. We can overcome loss.
Knowing you can survive, and thrive, will prevent you from losing your happiness. Life does not have the power to take away your happiness, only you do.
Live outside yourself. Grow your world.
Having genuine concern for the happiness for others around you is a guaranteed way to prevent yourself from being self-focused on yourself. Having a giving heart warms your own. Treat others, and yourself, kindly, especially those who need it most.
Expect no rewards.
When you are kind to another human being, kindness is returned to you in another way. The law of reciprocity says that it will reward an action with another action in return. This works both ways, both positive and negative.
When you freely give a kindness to another, a kindness will be returned, provided you do not do the kindness with the desire to receive something in return. A kindness with an expectation is not a kindness, it’s a bribe.
Forgive yourself and others. Easily and often.
Forgiveness is not for the offended. It’s for the offender. Holding on to the bitterness of not forgiving causes your happiness to fade and/or diminish. Treating others as hostages to the offence might seem like justice in your mind, but it is you who suffers.
A lack of willingness to forgive is a sign that the non-forgiving person does not feel forgiven for something they themselves carry with them. Make the choice to give the offender the same break you give yourself before you hang them on the cross.
I will leave you with this. Happiness is a choice. It’s something only you can give yourself. It’s something you deserve to give yourself, so give abundantly. Then share it with the world. We need more happiness these days.
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Remember: Happiness is a choice, so be happy.