Every New Beginning Is Born by The Death of The Past
Every New Beginning Is Born by The Death of The Past

Every New Beginning Is Born by The Death of The Past

 

“The beginning is the most important part of the work.”

– Plato

 

We are all blessed in life because no matter how bad we do, life always gives us a chance to do a do over every January 1st. But in order to create a new beginning, we must say goodbye to our past. We are not to ignore it or deny it, but we are to learn from it if we want a new beginning.

Every New Beginning Is Born by The Death of The Past

Life is a journey with many roads they ask us to travel. Some roads are good, fine, and healthy. Some roads are dark, dangerous, and harmful to us and sometimes those around us.

If we do not take the time needed to reflect on our past, it dooms us to repeat it. That’s how life is. We are here to learn. Our mistakes teach us what does not work, and our successes teach us what will.

 

Every New Beginning Is Born by The Death of The Past
If we do not take the time needed to reflect on our past, it dooms us to repeat it.

 

Every year we celebrate New Year’s eve with parties and festivities. We celebrate the hope of a new beginning. A fresh start. A chance to right the wrongs, make things right, or to just plain old do better.

What we don’t do enough is take time during these moments to reflect on the road taken. We are told to stand on our story of our life, but not stand in it. It’s perfectly fine to visit the past so you can learn from it, just don’t stay there for any length of time.

 

“Tomorrow, is the first blank page of a 365-page book. Write a good one.”

― Brad Paisley

 

Take the time to do three things. Reflect, Identify, and Learn.

Reflect:

  • Take time that you set aside and schedule for yourself to sit and be still. Turn off the phone. Eliminate the possibility of distractions by being in a space that allows you to feel safe and comfortable.
  • Identify:

Reflect on the past year. Don’t beat yourself up over the mistakes and don’t over celebrate with the victories. Just review it in your mind. Don’t relive it! Just note it. Pay close attention to what served you and what didn’t.

  • Learn:

Learning from our mistakes is the best way to prevent from making them again. If you stick your hand into the fire and didn’t learn, it will burn your chances are you will get burned again. This exercise will prevent that.

 

 

“Be at war with your vices, at peace with your neighbors, and let every new year find you a better man.”

― Benjamin Franklin

 

Imagine someone walking down the street with ten large bags on their shoulders.

They would move slower than if they did not have them.

They could not go in some directions because of them.

When we do not learn from our past and release the hold they have on us, we prevent forward momentum in life. Some opportunities would not present themselves or not be accessible because of what we carry from the past.

With every New Year comes new opportunities. New adventures. New chances and new choices. Don’t let the past make you go down the same road repeatedly. Allow the past to be behind you and do not allow it to block your forward momentum. Allow it to die so your new life can begin.

 

Every New Beginning Is Born by The Death of The Past
With every New Year comes new opportunities. New adventures. New chances and new choices.

 

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If you have enjoyed this article, please visit me at www.JosephBinning.com for more helpful tips and articles.

You can also get more helpful information in my book You Matter, even if you don’t think so which you can purchase on Amazon here Amazon You Matter, even if you don’t think so

For my free report Happiness Is A Choice click here: Happiness Is A Choice Free Report

Remember: Happiness is a choice, so be happy.

 

In the End All That Matters Is What You Do

Life has a funny way about it. Sometimes were up, sometimes were down. One thing is sure, we all go through stuff, but in the end all that matters is what you do with it that counts.

 

“A happy person is not a person with a certain set of circumstances, but rather a person with a certain set of attitudes”

— Hugh Downs American TV Producer

 

I always say happiness is a choice that leads to an action. External circumstances cannot provide lasting happiness. The shiny new car will bring temporary happiness until your neighbor drives up with a newer one. That new outfit will bring temporary happiness until you see someone else wearing the same outfit. That new toy will bring about temporary happiness until it breaks.

For some, happiness can be very elusive. They just can’t seem to find it, but they keep looking everywhere and everyplace. To no avail. I was like that, always looking for something to make me happy. But it never lasted. Until I figured out the happiness is an internal choice and has nothing to do with external circumstances.

Lasting happiness will never materialize in your life until you stop looking for it. Yes, that is correct, until you stop looking for it. Something will always come up that puts a damper on it. It rains on your wedding day, and you planned it outside. That new car gets a scratch in it, ouch! The new outfit fades, etc. etc., etc.

 

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The only thing that matters in the end is what you do with it.

One way to maintain happiness is to realize that we will all go through stuff in life, that’s guaranteed. The only thing that matters in the end is what you do with it.

I play golf every week with a set of friends for years now. It’s our way of keeping in touch with each other and getting outside to exercise. The beauty of playing golf is typically what you talk about is how well you hit your last shot, or how badly you missed it.

This week we have a 30% chance of rain on the day we are scheduled to play. Out came the message from one guy questioning if we should play or not. He sends out a message the there is a 30% chance of rain so should we take a chance and show up or cancel the game?

Back came a reply from one guy, “yes there is a 30% chance of rain but there is also a 70% chance of sunshine”. In the end all that matters is what you do. We’re showing up to play.

 

 

Far too many times people over think things. They play the what if game over and over and over until they talk themselves out of what they were thinking about doing? While analyzing your options is a smart thing to do before you do something, over analyzing something has the opposite effect that we desire for the outcome. It stops us from ever starting.

We have a choice in life, let it beat you up and make you bitter, or accept it and not allow it to damper your happiness. The choice is ours, and only we have the power to decide what the outcome will be.

So how do we choose to be happy? Im glad you asked.

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• Know that where you have been is not who you are as a person.
  • Know that where you have been is not who you are as a person.

We all make mistakes in life, it’s designed that way. Thomas Edison, the inventor of the light bulb, failed 10,000 times before his idea worked. When asked how it felt to fail 10,000 times, his response was “I have not failed. I’ve just found 10,000 ways that won’t work.” [1]Had he chosen to believe that his failures made him a failure, we would all be in the dark.

Do not allow past failures (lessons) to stand in the way from you seeking your happiness. Just because it didn’t work the last time does not mean won’t.

 

 

 

  • Live with no regrets

Failure is never final because we will always fail in one way or another throughout our lives. Never regret decisions and or their outcomes. Failures are ways that did not work on your way to finding what does. When life blesses you with a lesson, never regret it.

Regrets prevent our happiness from manifesting in our daily lives. They do the opposite of being happy; they make you bitter. Trust me, bitter does not look good on you.

  • Change your perceptions of how you see things

Edison knew that failure was part of the process and understood that. He knew, just like when he learned to walk that he would fall (fail) before he walked. A lot. Just like you did. By changing the way you look at things, you can drastically improve your life.

Stop looking for an external source for your happiness. Happiness is a choice that leads to and action, that leads to a feeling. Be happy.

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• Forgive yourself for lying to yourself by thinking you could never be happy
  • Forgive yourself for lying to yourself by thinking you could never be happy

Far too many times people make mistakes and hang on to them. We keep them in baggage that we carry around with us from circumstance to circumstance, never letting go. We tell ourselves that we keep them around to remind us not to do something again, but it only reminds us of what won’t work.

By carrying these memories around each day, we focus on them because they are in the front of our mind. What you focus on, you get. By addressing the issue and allowing yourself to be human, forgiving yourself for the issue is easier, and liberating.

I remember a friend who counseled me on an issue that I was holding over my head and could not seem to forgive myself over. His advice was “you make a lousy god because only a god has that much power’. Forgiving yourself is the first step to allowing your happiness back into your life.

 

 

You can read my other article about forgiveness here: FORGIVENESS Is Not for the Other Person

It’s what you do with what life throws at you that matters.

Here is another article about Happiness that will help you: How to Find Happiness in Hard Times

 

If you have enjoyed this article, please visit me at www.JosephBinning.com for more helpful tips and articles.

You can also get more helpful information in my book You Matter, even if you don’t think so which you can purchase on Amazon here Amazon You Matter, even if you don’t think so

For my free report Happiness Is A Choice click here: Happiness Is A Choice Free Report

Remember: Happiness is a choice, so choose to be happy.

[1] Goodreads.com/ Thomas A. Edison > Quotes/accessed 10/24/2020/ https://www.goodreads.com/author/quotes/3091287.Thomas_A_Edison#:~:text=Thomas%20A.%20Edison%20quotes%20Showing%201-30%20of%2057,it%27s%20dressed%20in%20overalls%20and%20looks%20like%20work%E2%80%9D

 

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You Matter, even if you don’t think so by Joseph Binning